I had the life. The letters behind my name. The career people respected. The goals I crushed. The family I built. The things I bought.
At some point, I looked around and thought, this can’t be it. I did everything right. I followed the rules. I succeeded. And I still felt caged.
Not because something was missing. But because too much of it didn’t matter.
That’s when I let go. Not just of stuff, but of the belief that success would make me feel safe. That productivity would lead to peace. That proving myself would finally quiet the noise inside me.
I didn’t fall apart, I woke up. In that awakening, I realized something radical: I don’t want to work anymore. I want to live.
I spent years hustling to get paid so I could spend money. Buying things I didn’t need to cope with a life I never truly felt. Building a business just to prove I could. Checking boxes just to say I did.
And when I really stopped to listen, to feel, none of it fully defined who I really am.
HER Era is what came after the unraveling.
After the resume. After the identity I curated to feel “enough.” After I stopped chasing healing and started asking: What do I actually want to feel while I’m still here? Here’s what I found:
- I want to create, not perform.
- I want to live, not just survive.
- I want to be guided by my internal world—not the internal world of others.
- I want to slow down and still feel safe.
I want beauty, softness, connection, impact. Not simply because I earned it. But because I am it.
And no—this choice doesn’t mean I expect life to be easy.
I don’t. Choosing this path doesn’t mean I expect comfort without effort or peace without pressure. It doesn’t mean I’ve transcended fear or figured it all out.
It means I’m no longer shocked when life gets lifey. I don’t take the hard days personally. I don’t make the chaos mean I chose wrong. Because, now, I trust myself inside it all.
I look in the mirror and say: “We’ve made it through all of that and we’re still standing. We’ve got so much more in us.”
I choose to live this life. Not because it’s easy, because it’s mine.
If you’re reading this with a lump in your throat because something in you knows—
You’re over it too. Over the hustle. Over the shoulds. Over the pressure to always want more.
I want you to know: You’re not crazy. You’re not lazy. You’re not giving up.
You’re remembering.
A Simple HER Era Ritual
The Reclaiming Audit
Sit with a blank page and ask:
- What do I do out of fear?
- What do I do out of habit?
- What do I do out of joy?
Circle the last one. Let it lead you this week. Even once. Let that be enough.
HER Era is not about having less. It’s about needing less because you finally feel full.
It’s not about avoiding the hard. It’s about trusting yourself to keep choosing peace in the middle of it.
If you’re ready to stop working your way toward joy and start living from it…👉 Come home to HER Hub.
Talk soon, stay grounded.
